Body Language: How to Read a Man’s Signals
June 28th, 2010 | Author: admin
| In my last article, I shared how you can easily adjust your body language so your dates will warm up to you and today, we’re going to focus on men and the body language they’re revealing all the time that will let you know they like you.
This past Friday I had a totally fun girl’s night out and what I loved most about it was observing the multitude of ways men were communicating to us through subtle moves and gestures that showed they were interested in us. The ability to “read” people is a wonderful by product of leading workshops and studying the dynamics of men and women (whether they’re in front of me or across the room) so let’s take a look at the most common ways men use their body language to communicate: 1. Quick Moves This one is subtle and happens very quickly so you have to pay attention. When a man greets you and raises his eyebrows quickly, that’s his body telling you he likes you. If he parts his lips at the same time, then he’s very attracted to you. Any quick gesture indicates interest. The next time you walk into Starbuck’s and notice a guy quickly snap his newspaper or suddenly set his coffee cup down and make a loud noise, it’s pretty much the equivalent of him beating his drum in the jungle to get your attention. 2. Smooth Moves When your standing in front of a man and/or he’s greeting you, watch to see if he’s smoothing his tie, lapel or either smoothing or messing up his hair. These gestures are a knee jerk reaction and reveal he’s nervous. 3. Below the Shoulders A really cool thing to do on a date is to look back when you’re leaving the table to use the washroom and he’s still sitting there. If his hands are below his shoulders, he’s into you. He’ll be fiddling with his socks, pulling them up or bending over to pull them up. The second gesture is hands on hips. If a guy’s into you, he’ll stand with both feet wide, pointing directly at you with his hands on his hips as a way to “frame the package”. On a very primal level, he’s showing you what he’s got – kinda like “check out my great suit and strong frame that will protect you from danger my lady”. He’s showing you he’s fully engaged with you and you’ve got his attention. What makes me giggle about this AND what I find even more adorable, is men have no idea their doing any of this! So have fun with this and let me know you’re results – would love to hear from you. It can be such a challenge to understand all the small, but important tips and tricks you need to know to successfully navigate the modern dating world. Today’s tips are only a fraction of the amount of information I have for you! If you’re ready to start getting it right on dates and long to attract your soul mate, send an email to info@datingandrelating.ca and let’s get you booked in for a complimentary session so we can shorten your learning curve and set you up for dating success! |
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Body Language: How to Send the Right Message
June 14th, 2010 | Author: admin
A fact many people don’t know is that 93% of what you communicate is through body language. As a single person, this is a key point to understand because it doesn’t matter what’s coming out of your mouth, if your body doesn’t match, your message won’t come across – making this something worth paying attention to!
When you’re on a date, you want to make sure you tune into what you are doing. If you find yourself doing some silly, nervous habits – whatever they are – playing with your nails or continuously moving your hair away from your eyebrows, just catch yourself. You can always get yourself out of some bad body language or some not-so-flirtatious body language, just take a deep breath and lean in. Breathing calms you down and leaning in makes your date feel like your interested in them.
Another way to recover from some nervous body language is to just smile. Men just love women who smile. And what confuses them oftentimes is they’ll see a woman dressed to the nines but oh, oh, she forgot the most important accessory at home – her smile!
Under pressure, our bodies really do show our true feelings. Many times I notice women at bars, the gym and parties literally holding a plate of armour in front of them. They’ll have their big purse over their right shoulder and hold their drink right in front of their heart and that’s how they make their way around the room.
Another example I saw at a singles event was a man facing a woman but the woman was sitting sideways. She came up to me after the event and said how interested she was in him but he never asked for her number. I pointed out to her that it was impossible for him to tell she liked him with her body angled the way it was – definitely sending the “I’m not available” message.
Want to start sending the right body message?
A great way to do this is to start mirroring the other person’s body language. I’m always watching how men and women are interacting at cafe’s, restaurants and pretty much wherever I go. It’s so easy to spot a man and woman who have chemistry because they’re continually mimicking each other’s gestures.
Those men and women are doing this without realizing it, but if you find yourself nervous on a date, you could easily start consciously mimicking your date’s body gestures. Have fun with it! You’ll be the only one who knows what’s happening and it’s a great way for your date to start feeling closer to you without knowing why – kinda sneaky, but in a loving way, yes?
Emotionally Shutdown: 7 Danger Signs to Watch For
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Many women I coach confide their frustration about how they keep “putting themselves out there” and just can’t seem to attract the right guy (or any guys!)
I swear there’s nothing that will test your ego, patience or belief that a higher power actually exits more than being single – especially when single is NOT your goal, am I right?
3 Tips to Prevent Men from Cheating on You
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I’m not one to pay much attention to the tabloids but I have to admit it’s been hard to escape the amount of press being given to cheating husbands lately – namely Tiger Woods and Sandra Bullock’s husband Jesse James.
Dating in your 40’s: 5 Powerful Tips for Women
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